when does it get easier !!!

[sonnybyron]

We have burried WIlls ashes in our garden,in a place he seemed to like ,Our granchildren made a little cross with his name on, it may seem a little morbid but it looks so tranquill with a solar light glowing, By doing this we feel he is still with us is this normal behavoiur ?

[lynn wise]

In a Word, "yes".
Whatever you do, it's right for you. Everyone is different in their approach to grief and loss, but that is what you feel is right for you and Will. He will never be forgotten, and always close in your heart and thoughts.
When we lost Timber, his ashes went to his favourite river. He was such a water baby, and now I think of him swimming with a smile on his face. Although there is always a tear and a "good morning Timber" when we pass that special place.
Take Care

[labres1]

Perfectly normal!!

We have a number of wooden caskets about the house - all with our dogs in. I guess that could sound strange to some but we dont feel settled when they die until they 'come home'.

When I finally get our garden sorted there will be a memorial section in it for the dogs - each will have a small rose with lighting etc -

Goldies in particular take a piece of your heart when they go - they are always with you

[janrobinson]

It will get easier.

I still have all my dogs ashes every one. Keep saying I will scatter them but I can't bear to part with them, and I can not bury them either. We all deal with things in our own way.

[sonnybyron]

Thanks,
Lynne ,Jan ,and labres 1 ,your kind words mean so much to us
Elaine and Ian (Wills mum and dad) xx

[Samsmum]

When our beloved Meg died over three years ago, we were devastated, and it was six weeks before we could talk about our loss.
We received Meg's ashes from the vet's, and I decided to divide them into four. One quarter we scattered on the sand-dunes at St. Anne's on Sea where she had spent many happy hours running about and getting very dirty, another quarter we scattered on Deganwy beach which was another of her favourite places which we visited; the third quarter we buried beside a lovely little pond in our garden, beside which is a statue of St. Francis, patron saint of animals. She loved our garden and that part is her special plot. The fourth quarter is in my office at home, because I couldn't quite let all of her go.
After the six weeks of not talking about Meg, we approached Jan, who provided us with the most wonderful dog; he has not replaced Meg, no dog could do that, but he has brought great happiness back into our lives, and we still have our happy memories of Meg - a glorious free spirit who drove us to distraction, but who we loved and will always love.
The sadness will diminish, and memories will always be there.
God bless! Samsmum.

[gilliedew]

I always wondered if I was doing the right thing about our dogs ashes but reading your posts, it seems I am doing the same as most of you.

Thats a relief, it is always a painful thing to do but I am glad we did not chose to put them in our garden as we had to move recently and it would have been a choice to take them with us or let them rest where they were but not knowing if they would be cared for as we would have done.

Oscar and Dudley passed within a few months of each other so we scattered their ashes in the sea next to where they spent so many happy hours on the beach.

We now have Gillies and Olivers ashes and most probably will do the same thing again, but at the moment it is still too soon to let my Oliver go and as Gillie was his mother, we want them to be together.

Another thing we did was to buy a Garden Ornament of a Golden Retriever and a little girl, this is in Memorium of our late daughter and all the Goldies we have had. This is our tribute to their times together and all the love between them.

[julia]

I certainly think you all have done the right thing. when the vet came out to Jas she asked if we wanted his ashes back. I didn't know this was an option and I wasnt thinking straight so i said no. I wish now I had, esecially after reading your posts.
I would have put him under the ceanthus in the front garden. he always lay there to watch alan gardening and me washing the cars.

I'm sure he's still watching us from somewhere.

[superjazz]

Our first Golden Jessie is buried in the top garden and has a head stone. Our second we still have the casket of ashes
If we move Jessie will have to go with us !!
It looks like we will stagger on here !!
P, S, J & C

[hairydog]

I cant really add any more from what the others have said but Goldens are so special he will always be in your heart..

[Ellas mum]

We scattered Leigh's ashes (she was our first Golden) in a stream on one of her favourite walks. She would always stop for a drink and play in the water.

In the spring, there are bluebells and wood anemonies growing all around, and from the window we can watch the sunrise over that lovely place.