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Hello, I'm new here. I've been reading the posts and looking at the pictures- sometimes having a weep. We've had 2 dogs, our first Ben a rescue dog, died at 15. We thought we would never get over him, but after 12 months we got a Goldie pup, Jasper. He was the most loving, gentle, dog. My oldest children were 7 and 8. He just thought he was my 3rd child, then when he was a year we had a new baby. Jas was never jealous or bothered,- he just assumed we'd had a 4th child, he was still child number 3. We could have a house and garden full of children and he'd be in the middle of them having a great time. 6 years ago Jas had a tumour on his side-the vet thought it would be the end, it wasn't. He got arthritic, then he had a couple of strokes, but with hand feeding, and carrying him in and out till he found his feet he recovered enough to have a good life. In April he had another stroke just before his 15th birthday. This time he didn't get better-we had to get the vet to come and send him to a better place. He was on his old bed with all of us there. I hope he understood we were only trying to do the right thing for him. I'm sorry for such a long message -I wanted to tell this to people who hopefully dont think I'm loopy. I rang Jan a couple of weeks ago. Our house is not a home without a goldie. I work now so we can't have a puppy, but between us there are only ever a few hours at most when we are all out, and my Mum will dog sit. I hope I could take a grown up dog. Hubby retires next year so maybe we could add another dog then. I am on a waiting list so fingers crossed. Julia
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Hi Julia,

So sorry for your loss. Goldens touch your heart so much their loss is so profoundly felt. I lost my beloved Daisy last year, but my first born Jazz remains with me. We will be adding to our family soon too. I am sure you will find a lovely dog to share your life.

Best wishes.

Helen & Jazz
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:2035: Hi Julia, welcome to our site.
I'm so sorry to read of your loss. Our Goldens become so much a part of our family and our lives, and saying goodbye is heartbreaking, but also a final act of love and compassion.

I do hope that you can take some comfort from knowing that most of us on here know how you must be feeling.

With all good wishes, Jean.
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Post by Samsmum »

Hello Julia,
Welcome to the site - so sorry to hear of your loss. Most of us have been in your situation, and feel for you. Do hope you will soon have a new Golden companion to love and care for.
Best wishes - Samsmum.
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Post by superjazz »

hello Julia
We know how you are feeling but you can find some comfort knowing that you let this golden boy leave you with dignity
the last act of love.
P.S.J & C
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Hello Julia, and welcome.
What a lovely caring story, although I feel for your loss. Do so hope you get your hearts desire, another Golden to cherish as you did with your others. As other friends have said, we understand how you must be feeling, it's not easy at these times, but you did your best right till the end.
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Hello Julia

It is only three months ago, I was in the same position as you, sad about losing my beloved boy Oliver and also like you have found such caring and understanding on this website.

Everytime, this happened to us, I felt so awful almost that we had let him down somehow by doing what was the right thing by ending his suffering. A huge space in our hearts and in our family was empty and yearning for his presence, just as you described your feelings.

So many other owners have written about their loss, since then, and it helps no end to share our grief, and it is grief although it is a dog because they were part of the family.

I am very lucky to have one of Jans rescue dogs since then and I bless Jan for letting me have her as she is a star. I seem to have compartments in my heart for all my past dogs, none were the same, each a personality in their own right and I still pine for them and their special ways and will love them always.

I am glad you found this website, you have come to the right place to start the process of healing the loss of your Golden. :1999:
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Post by Cobi and Ginnies Mum »

Hello Julia,

It's a wonderful website and it has, and does help owners when they have had to say goodbye to their pals, as sadly we have all shared that awful experience.

I think that is a lovely (gilliedew) about compartments in your heart for all your past dogs, there aren't many days that go by without one of us saying 'do you remember when so and so did.....' and it is always something one of our dogs had done. We will always love them... Cobi was a big distraction for our loss 5 years ago, when we collected her from Jan, and we all love her to pieces. :love4
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thank you all very much for your kind messages. Its good to hear about all of your pets. It's true that we are always saying 'remember when he did this or that. I will try to put a picture of Jas here. I'll keep hoping for the chance of another moppet to love.
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Goldens are such special dogs when you lose one part of you dies as well,hope you have a new family member soon....
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Post by sonnybyron »

Hi Julia ,
sorry to hear the sad loss of Jas, we also lost our beloved Will in august , and we understand exactly how you feel, We found great comfort in putting a couple of pictures on rainbow bridge.
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